Bede would turn in his grave: raising boys to worship money & power – thoughts of an Old Boy of St Bede’s

When I was 12 or 13 years old, on occasion I used to ride the long way home from Casebrook Intermediate to Pāpānui via St Bede’s College. I would stop and gaze through the fences at the pristine school grounds, the grand buildings and the sharp red and black uniforms. I couldn’t have articulated this… Read More Bede would turn in his grave: raising boys to worship money & power – thoughts of an Old Boy of St Bede’s

Controlling men

To continue the annus horribilus that is 2014, the at least 35 young men who called themselves the Roastbusters and sexually assaulted and raped at least 110 young women were not charged after a three year investigation because of lack of evidence. The positive Police spin as to the thoroughness of their investigation did nothing to quell the… Read More Controlling men

In the battle for control of NZ, Key and Cunliffe wave their phalluses at each other

At Auckland’s Big Gay Out, in a surreal moment, John Key claimed he would “definitely win” a game of beer pong against Labour leader David Cunliffe. “Wouldn’t be any doubt about it,” the PM said. David Cunliffe responded in kind, claiming “I could, I’m sure – if the moment arose – drink him under the… Read More In the battle for control of NZ, Key and Cunliffe wave their phalluses at each other

Karl Du Fresne’s The Mysteries of a Modern Life: Reloaded!

More pressing questions for out troubled columnists (a reworking of Karl Du Fresne’s column): Should columnists who abuse parents and kids for difference and divergence in names, language and outlook have a complaint laid against them at the Human Rights Commission? Commodore Frank Bainimarama – the logical outcome of NZ’s economic & social colonisation of the Pacific right in our own backyard? We’ve had Dancing… Read More Karl Du Fresne’s The Mysteries of a Modern Life: Reloaded!

How NZ men raised their sons up to be Roastbusters

Amidst all the handwringing, anger, disgust and blame that has come with the revelations about the self-proclaimed Roastbusters, I have not been aware of any commentary on how we raised these sexual predators within the bosom of our community. I have no intention of providing a lengthy treatise on the historical foundations of our rape culture; clearly… Read More How NZ men raised their sons up to be Roastbusters

The Snip II

It has been very interesting going through the process of a vasectomy. I was complimented by my counsellor and thanked profusely by my wife for doing it. People were sensitive to not inquire as to the reason I was not available once I had said I had day surgery. Closer friends who had already the… Read More The Snip II

The Snip I

I had a vasectomy five days ago. I’m writing this reflection in two parts: the first part is what happened and all the questions you really want answered that aren’t in the brochures; the second part is exploring the systemic issues as to why we don’t talk about vasectomies. My wife and I have four children. We’ve… Read More The Snip I