Leviticus, earthquakes and Brian Tamaki’s lust for punishment

Always looking for a helpful angle to keep you interested in a story, the New Zealand Herald decided that mere suffering and pain wouldn’t suffice to keep you interested in the Kaikōura earthquake, so decided a dose of outrage was needed and decided to report on the strange, strange world of Bishop Brian Tamaki and… Read More Leviticus, earthquakes and Brian Tamaki’s lust for punishment

Stripping, respectability, consent and the Waikato Chiefs #rapeculture

You may be aware there is a rugby game on this weekend in which Lions are fighting Hurricanes. This would actually be the logical extension of Sharknado; maybe Liocanes. Surprisingly though, the Hurricanes have not been the Aotearoa New Zealand rugby team to garner the most media attention this week; they have been trumped by… Read More Stripping, respectability, consent and the Waikato Chiefs #rapeculture

How NZ men raised their sons up to be Roastbusters

Amidst all the handwringing, anger, disgust and blame that has come with the revelations about the self-proclaimed Roastbusters, I have not been aware of any commentary on how we raised these sexual predators within the bosom of our community. I have no intention of providing a lengthy treatise on the historical foundations of our rape culture; clearly… Read More How NZ men raised their sons up to be Roastbusters

The Snip II

It has been very interesting going through the process of a vasectomy. I was complimented by my counsellor and thanked profusely by my wife for doing it. People were sensitive to not inquire as to the reason I was not available once I had said I had day surgery. Closer friends who had already the… Read More The Snip II

The Snip I

I had a vasectomy five days ago. I’m writing this reflection in two parts: the first part is what happened and all the questions you really want answered that aren’t in the brochures; the second part is exploring the systemic issues as to why we don’t talk about vasectomies. My wife and I have four children. We’ve… Read More The Snip I